Our No’s

While we say « yes » to a lot of bullshit, it is frightening the amount of times we say « no » to things that are really important to our hearts. When it’s a question of being helped, supported and just being held, I don’t know why we just say « no »! 

Recently a friend was going through a challenge and I offered to come visit her at the hospital. I could feel she wanted to say yes, but her fear of bothering me, or the distance being too far caused her to refrain. So I told her, Stop with your No when you want to say a YES. It is a vulnerable position, but if your friends, partner, family, community are not there for you, what is the point?! At that moment, I just wanted to be there for her and was glad she eventually said yes, and let me come support her. A day later she said, you brought us luck, we are going home tomorrow. I was so happy for them! 

We say, No, in fear of being a burden, too much, but you know what? If my best friend or uncle would have said yes to help, maybe they would not have committed suicide. If a woman giving birth would have said yes she's still in terrible pain, maybe she would not have died. If that partner would have said yes to help with their alcoholism, maybe they would be on the road to recovery instead of slowly drinking themselves to death. And the list goes on. 

Just imagine, by simply saying yes to that hand, that smile, you could release your pain, and finally focus on the solution. 

Say Yes. Always and Forever. 

Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée