When everything seems perfect—loving family, supportive parents, the right conditions—but something still feels off, that's often a sign it’s time for a 'Family Constellation'.

We all need Love. There is no way a newborn can develop healthily without Love. And what happens when Love is not part of the picture? We try to find Love somewhere else like in food, alcohol, sex, self sabotage, violence, medication, escape, drugs, and the list goes on. Whatever will make our body feel whole and complete, even for a minute, we will try for the sake of Love. 

Our thoughts can be misleading. They’re shaped by past experiences, societal expectations, and our moods from day to day. This internal chatter often leans towards negativity, filling our minds with doubts like "I’m not good enough," "I can’t do this," or "I’ll never succeed." But these thoughts aren’t facts; they’re just stories we tell ourselves.

In Family Constellations Therapy, we often discuss the irresponsible or abusive parent. But what about the mother who seems perfect? The one who presents herself well, is admired by everyone, runs a successful business, is beautiful, and has a lovely relationship with her husband. She’s like a picture of perfection. But what's the subconscious impact on her children?

What does it mean to be a good parent? It’s when your children feel free to be selfish with their emotions and feelings. Even as adults, their emotions matter more than yours. This doesn’t mean they’re spoiled—it means you did an amazing job staying in your role as a parent without expecting your children to manage your emotions.

What I like about Family Constellations is the power of acknowledging. We don't go over and over the same details or revisit the same pain. No, instead we acknowledge, recognize, and consent. Then we move on into the present moment where the therapeutic work is going to be more efficient because the client is now in their power.