The First Betrayal: It Starts with Your Parents

The first betrayal in life often begins with our parents. As a newborn, you enter the world with an inherent expectation of unconditional love, care, and a smooth journey ahead. You believe, instinctively, that you will be loved the way you need and want to be loved. But soon, reality sets in, and you start to realize that things aren’t as perfect as you imagined.

Your parents, who are supposed to be your first source of comfort and security, are also carrying their own wounds. They are navigating their own unresolved betrayals, often stemming from their relationships with their parents. These patterns, if not healed, can subtly pass down from generation to generation, affecting the way they show up for you.

This cycle of unhealed betrayal doesn’t stop with your parents. It ripples through your relationships, especially in your love life. You might find yourself feeling let down or betrayed by partners, friends, or even colleagues, repeatedly facing situations that reflect those initial wounds. It’s as if life keeps presenting you with opportunities to recognize and heal that original betrayal, urging you to break the cycle.

Healing that first betrayal requires awareness and a willingness to confront deep-seated pain. It’s about understanding that your parents, too, were once children who didn’t get all the love and support they needed. By facing these truths and working through them, you can begin to shift your perspective, heal old wounds, and ultimately change the patterns that have followed you throughout your life.

The journey isn’t easy, but it’s crucial. It’s about reclaiming your sense of self and redefining what love and support mean to you, independent of the patterns you inherited. Only then can you move forward with healthier relationships and a truer sense of fulfillment.

Much Love, 
Marine Sélénée