being vulnerable
"You want to grow? Be vulnerable. Growth only happens in that space of truth and authenticity — nowhere else. Strength is a form of resistance, but vulnerability is where real expansion begins." Marine Selenee
We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to open our hearts. We want the other person to do it first. We hesitate to be authentic if it means risking rejection.
But vulnerability means saying, I trust you with my heart and emotions, so I choose to show up with my truth. It takes immense courage to be vulnerable — yet it’s the only place where real strength and growth exist.
You can be strong, you can fight, you can go to therapy — but without vulnerability, your healing journey remains soulless and disconnected.
In Family Constellations, we show up with vulnerability. We face the truth — not the fantasy where we once got stuck — and we take responsibility for our actions as adults. That takes courage. That takes heart.
I deeply admire vulnerability. It creates a depth between two people that can’t be faked. It’s not about playing roles — it’s about being here, fully, in authenticity. Not hiding behind childhood wounds, fears, pain, or excuses, but simply saying: This is me. And it’s okay if you don’t connect with it.
The same applies to relationships. Some people will come and go — that’s the rhythm of life. You can grow together for hours, days, months, or years, and then feel that the connection has run its course. Letting go is also an act of love — freeing the other person, honoring what was shared, and accepting that it’s okay if your paths now diverge.
We often struggle to let go — of a love, a friendship, a job, or even a habit — because we fear the void. We fear looking deeply at ourselves. But when we finally do, life becomes more vibrant, more exhilarating. We return to our true selves — and there is incredible power in that.
Loving who we are first allows us to trust that the right people will come — the ones who are meant to grow with us.
With love,
Marine Sélénée